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a child, friend, spouse, or
God might be Agape.
The affectionate regard
for friends, family and
community is Phillia. This
is love without passion,
the kind that requires a
give and take and relies
on virtue and equality.
Storge refers to the natural
affection found in families,
such as that of a parent for
a child. Storgic love is the
¡®friends first¡¯ kind of love.
Then there is ¡®Love at
first sight¡¯, the romantic
physical attraction, the
love without reason. This
is Eros, the passionate
love with sensual desire
and longing. The modern
variant of the word eros is
erotas, which is more spe-
Back to Square One?
¡°Do not allow yourselves to be robbed of hope. May we
not be robbed of hope, because this strength is a grace,
a gift from God, which carries us forward with our eyes
fixed on heaven.¡± (Pope Francis, Homily on the Assump-
tion of the Blessed Virgin Mary) ¡°Hope Springs Eternal
in the human Breast: Man never is, but always to be
Blest.¡± (Alexander Pope, An Essay on Man)
You all know the history, people relocating from one
spot on the planet to another in order to make a better
life for themselves and their families. Bounia (my grand-
mother) escaped the constant raids by the Cossacks in
the Ukraine, seeking life more than existence. She left the
familiar in her small village for the unknown in America,
a country where she would raise a family of four, with a
husband who paid her father for the privilege of calling
her wife. History seems to repeat itself at every turn of
the road, and yet people continue to strive and thrive.
Meet Molly. She was married and raised three daugh-
ters, unfortunately alone, after she was widowed shortly
following the birth of her third daughter. Work was
scarce in her home state of Kentucky, so she relocated to
sunny California to raise her girls. She worked as a cus-
tomer service agent at a department store in Los Angeles
With no family other than her young daughters to help
her, she managed to raise them with a morally grounded
ethic and well educated, each earning a college degree,
prepared to become productive members of society.
On Molly¡¯s 65th birthday, she retired from her position
at the department store, and on the same day signed
up with the Actor¡¯s union and began career #2. Molly
appeared in television commercials, four movies and nu-
merous plays in the theater. The one thing that seemed
to confuse her was the residual checks that she received
every time a commercial was aired or a movie played
again. ¡°Jo, return this money to the studio, I¡¯ve already
been paid for this movie,¡± she¡¯d say.
I was affiliated with a ¡°Video House¡± that produced
religious video stories and print material in Los Ange-
les, CA, sometime during the 1980¡¯s. That¡¯s where I met
Molly¡¯s daughter, Jo. We were both writers and editors
at this production company. Due to some unpleasant-
ness beyond our control, the business was sold and 35
workers were without employment. Molly was filming
yet another movie, and the studio sent a limo to bring
her to the shoot. Jo stood in the doorway, still wearing
pajamas, hair in a mess looking dejected and forlorn.
Molly, already in the limo, rolled down the window and
shouted to her daughter, ¡°get a shower and get a job,¡± as
the limo drove off. We all found new work. We all went
on with our lives.
Life on planet earth is not for the faint of heart. It takes a
great deal of courage to relocate, whether it is from one
country to another, one state to another, or a new house
just down the street. Spring is here again, and the hope
is that the mean winter will bring forth new life. The
snow will melt, rivers will flow, nature will restore itself.
Rain may come tomorrow - the wind will stop blow-
ing sooner or later - the sun will shine - the birds will
sing - my spring flowers will bloom. Some of this natural
process will continue with or without our help. Perhaps
we are becoming more mindful of our part and place in
the process. Let¡¯s hope so. Hope springs eternal.....
(Sandy Lauzon is a Shaklee Distributor located at 202
4th St in Dolores. 970.759.9740)
2014 March
Pg 6 - The Sunshine Express
What is Love?
Love of God, love of a child, love of family, love of
friends, love of country. Is romantic love different than
the love between close friends, self-love or a love of
humanity? Is love really blind, unconditional, and thus
beyond our control? The science of love is a fascinating
blend of neurochemistry, biology and sociology.
The Neurobiology of Love
The chemistry of love revolves around oxytocin, a hor-
mone first known to play a role in childbirth by causing
the uterus to contract and the breasts to secrete milk. It
further promotes the maternal-infant bond. But more
recently, we¡¯ve come to understand that oxytocin plays a
much broader role in the scope of love.
Oxytocin is made in the pituitary gland, the little hor-
mone control center located in the middle of the brain.
Aside from the childbirth, oxytocin plays a role in sexual
attraction and sexual intimacy. Studies show high levels
of oxytocin before and during sexual activity. Couples
that are newly in love have higher levels of oxytocin and
it is associated with increased romantic attachment and
monogamous bonding.
Oxytocin can be given to someone to instill a feeling of
attachment or bonding. It increases trust and decreases
fear, causing more generosity and social bonding. The
pro-social effects of oxytocin have led to it being called
the ¡°love hormone¡±.
Other hormones play a role in the love process. While
estrogen and testosterone are simple players in the lust
process, with true love a whole cascade of brain chem-
istry comes into play. Dopamine increases make us
feel satisfied, content, and pleased. Serotonin promotes
happiness while norepinephrine stimulates arousal,
attentiveness, and focus. All these neurochemicals come
together in an intricate chemical dance leading to the
feeling of love.
Much More than Chemistry
The Greeks had four words for love - agape, phillia,
storge and eros. While there is overlap, it is an attempt to
categorize the different aspects that we think of as love.
Agape translates as ¡°I love you¡± in ancient Greek and
means unconditional, giving, selfless, spiritual love.
Whether love is given in return or not, the love for an-
other continues, expecting nothing in return. The love of
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cific to intimate love, but eros does not have to be sexual
in nature. The Greek philosopher Plato described eros as
transcending the physical love for another person, and
being more about appreciating the beauty within that
person, or of beauty in and of itself. Plato wrote that the
physical attraction for one another is not necessary for
love, thus the term platonic is given to mean ¡®without
physical attraction¡¯.
Yet another Greek term for love is pragma, short for
pragmatic, meaning the love of the head and not of the
heart. This is the love developed with the rational goal of
seeking compatible, desirable traits that will help achieve
a common goal.
In the 1950s famed psychologist Eric Fromm described
¡®self-love¡¯ as different from being arrogant, conceited
or narcissistic. This is the love of oneself, taking care of
oneself, looking out for ones best interests, and ultimately
having a high self-esteem. The Greek philosopher Aris-
totle also wrote of self-love as being necessary before one
can truly love another.
Modern author Ayn Rand expanded on the concept of
self-love in her writings. Like Aristotle, she argued that
self-love is at the heart of virtuous behavior, although
Rand¡¯s version was more in support of a rational egoism
than a purely virtuous love. Either way, self-love is an
important concept in hu-
man emotion and a certain
amount of selfishness can
have its virtues.
All You Need is Love
How fitting it was, that the
very first worldwide live
television broadcast was
the Beatles, performing
their legendary song ¡®All
You Need is Love¡¯. Watched
by over 150 million people
it had meaning that was
understood by everyone.
It was a clear message that
love is everything.
Love is indeed a ¡°many
splendored thing¡± with all
the various ways we experi-
ence love. Having self-love
and agape might be enough.
Eros is perhaps the love that
drives us most, but unless
it mixes in some degree of
phillia or pragma, it usually
Love is free to give, but can
cost us dearly. It knows no
bounds and binds us stron-
ger than death. It can¡¯t be
bought or sold, as it is price-
less. Once again, Lennon-
McCartney said it so well,
¡°the love you take is equal
to the love you make¡±.
(Scott Rollins, MD, is Board
Certified with the American
Board of Family Practice
and the American Board of
Anti-Aging and Regenera-
tive Medicine. He specializ-
es in Bioidentical Hormone
Replacement for men and
women, thyroid and adrenal
disorders, fibromyalgia,
weight loss and other com-
plex medical conditions. He
by Sandy Lauzon
is founder and medical director of the Integrative
Medicine Center of Western Colorado (
and Bellezza Laser Aesthetics ( Call
970.245.6911 for an appointment or more information.)